SMC Wellbeing
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Does your partner isolate you from friends and family?
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Does your partner make you feel as if everything is your fault?
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Does your partner physically, verbally, emotionally or mentally abuse you?
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Does your partner control what you say?
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Does your partner control where you go?
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Does your partner control what you wear?
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Does your partner threaten you in any such way?
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Does your partner force you to do things you don't want to do, or put you in situations where you dont feel comfortable?
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Does your partner make you cry more than you smile?
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Does your partner argue with you at any chance they have?
If you find yourself answering yes to even one of these questions, it’s a huge warning sign that your relationship is not as healthy as you might think.
Please seek help and tell a trusted friend or adult. We offer many different strategies to help you in these situations also.
It’s important to know this “Your relationship could endanger your life."
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Love yourself enough to get the help you need to get out of the abusive relationship. No one deserves to be abused!
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It’s not your fault. You matter, your life matters, living a happy healthy life matters.
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If you are the parent of a teen who is in an abusive relationship be supportive. Do not judge nor place blame on your chin.
"Abusive relationships are complicated and what your teen needs most is your unconditional love and support”. Tanisha, a survivor of an unhealthy relationship.
noticing an unhealthy relationship
Unhealthy relationships in teens is much more common than most would think in this day and age. Girls from the ages of 16-24 years are the most likely to experience dating abuse. Sadly we also know that many young girls and boys fear the fact of reporting the abuse, so numbers or such cases could potentially be much higher than we can even anticipate.
What we want to encourage young girls in the SMC community is to learn about unhealthy/healthy relationships, hoping to give them the knowledge to be able to understand what one looks and feels like and why it is so important to remove yourself from these unhealthy situations. It seems to be a common thing in youth of NZ that these young girls put up with the different forms of abuse for the fear that they love their partner and do not want to lose them, or they just simply do not realise how toxic the relationship is that they are in and therefore have never seen another way to live their life.